Sometimes what is remarkable is what isn’t said. Aharon Friedman is on the staff of Rep. Dave
Camp, the Chairman of the Ways and Means Committee. Mr. Friedman and his wife were legally
divorced nearly two years ago. That isn’t,
however, enough to free Mr. Friedman’s wife from the marriage. Mr. Friedman and his wife are Orthodox
Jews. In Jewish Law, in order for the divorce
to be final the man must grant his permission.
This is done in the form of a document called a Get. Mr Friedman has not given his wife a
Get. A campaign to force him to do so is
gaining steam and publicity. There is
very little being said, however, about the acceptability of the Jewish
traditions themselves. No one is ranting
and raving about the fact that Jewish Law is operating in the United States …
and it is operating. No one has warned
of a takeover of the American legal system by Jewish Law. Imagine, however, if Mr. Friedman was Mr.
Mohammed. Islam has similar marriage laws
which give the husband more control than the wife. Similarly, Islamic marriage law does operate
in this country, although a little less openly than Jewish marriage law. The reaction to a Muslim man blocking a divorce
would be a little different, however.
Islam as a whole would be put on trial.
The man’s actions would be called a threat, medieval, and evil. It would be linked to terrorists. 9/11 would be brought up. The Republican Presidential candidates would
be getting involved in the act. The Congressman would be implored to fire his
staffer. Now, I understand that Jewish
marriage law and Islamic marriage law are different. It may well be the case that the gender
biased provisions in Jewish law come into play less often than is true in
Islam. These differences, however, would
not come close to accounting for the difference in reactions. We may not have any better an understanding
of Judaism then we do of Islam, but we don’t approach it with as much fear,
anger, hatred, and even blind rage. The
reaction to Mr. Friedman’s withholding of the Get is appropriate. Jewish marriage law is not a threat to the American
social fabric. This is just a case of
one person abusing Jewish law. It does
not call into question Judaism itself and Jewish people everywhere. It seems ridiculous to even suggest that it
would. Unfortunately, if this story were
about Mr. Mohammed rather than Mr. Friedman it wouldn’t seem nearly ridiculous enough
to way too many of us.
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